A study by the University of Iowa has similar advice.
Anyone can say they dance or read, but what kind of dancing and what kind of books?
Here’s an example straight from a guy's Ok Cupid profile: “I recently finished Augusten Burroughs’ Sellevision and just cracked open Freedom by Jonathan Franzen.
I’m a night person, also, believe me — but I learned my lesson about being a night-person-who’s-online-dating, so message in the day or early evening if you're looking for more than a booty call. Recently, I helped a guy friend set up his online dating profile and when he started to get matches, I learned he didn't write to any of them (until I stepped in). I suggested the same things to him that I did above, and now he has three coffee dates planned.
Trust me, you’ll see how people's messages and responses change. Though it may take practice, online dating — and messaging potential dates — gets easier the more you do it.
As an avid dater, online and off, and as someone who used to work for Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz, helping clients write their profiles, I saw many common online dating mistakes.
A lot of people clearly didn't know what to write in an online dating message.
Pick a few intriguing things that they said in their profile and go from there.
For instance, I just looked at another random guy’s Ok Cupid profile.
Just use the little information you do have, mutual Facebook friends or the person's location, and ask away.
Sure, some people still do it, wait a few days before messaging an online person back.
I also have a backlog of Atlantics to get through, but I might not win that literary battle.” See?