It all comes down to how your friend feels about it. Remember, it’s a tricky situation and if you don’t do your homework, you could lose your best friend. If it’s been a few years and your bestie has definitely moved on, give it a go. You were a good friend and kept your feelings to yourself for long enough. Pay close attention to when it is and isn’t okay to date her ex. Just because you break up with someone doesn't mean those feelings evaporate. If she's dating someone new, she probably is over him.
We talked with some friends who have experienced this and shared their insights with us. Is the boyfriend or girlfriend a bad influence on your friend? Do you think your friend’s date is a bad influence?
If someone has a different set of values, or lifestyle choices, you may think your friend is doing harm to mind, body, or spirit.
The truth is, when it comes to dating and relating, there really are very few black and white answers.
Many times the answers lie in the gray areas, and in the deeper questions. If you’re afraid this new romance will have a major effect on the relationship you have with your friend, you may feel confused, disappointed and frustrated. Figuring out where the dislike is coming from is a good place to start and it can help you know how to pray for the situation and respond to it.
And for what it's worth, my friendship with my best friend's ex fizzled and we haven't spoken since.
It’s always wrong to date your best friend’s ex, right? If there aren’t any hard feelings, she’s probably not going to mind.
Okay, I'm about to admit something that *no* girl ever should. We were never really official but there were definitely sparks that flew between us. The rule I ignored was talking to your friend about it first. But even though my BFF and I are as tight as ever (c'mon, chicks before dicks), there are some things I should have asked myself before I went down the dangerous road of liking her former significant other.
And so did my best friend's other friends, when they told her that her boyfriend had a crush on me. He was one of my best friends but every time I was with him, I had this nagging curiosity. "The sad truth is I never really considered how all of this would affect my friend. There's a definite girl code you should abide by when you're dating.
They’re both happy dating other people and there’s no jealousy.
As long as you respect her wishes, you won’t lose her as a friend and you’ll know for sure whether to date the ex or not.
You’ve probably had a thing for the guy while he was with your best friend. Never, under any circumstances, try to date the ex right after they broke up. Use your best judgment and hopefully you’ll get the friend and the guy.