Lesson number five: Date someone who gets your life.After a disheartening slog through the dating trenches, I took a break and focused on other areas of my life that were sorely lacking.
Eventually, after the fog of said miserable divorce started to lift -- or perhaps precipitated by my intense desire for it to lift -- friends and acquaintances began to set me up on dates.
Early on in the blind date parade, there was the attractive young television director, with whom I shared a quirky lunch date.
When I was ready to resurface, a friend introduced me to a different type of man: a divorced dad, with kids.
When I was introduced to Rob, a father of four, he was not looking for a serious relationship.
(Did I mention how wretchedly in need of some laughs I was by this point? He was such deliciously good company that it ensured his popularity with people in far loftier social circles than I.
Needless to say, the added complication of having a child was not a big attraction for him, either. Dating as a mother demands a new level of maturity.
The dating part seemed relatively easy -- if there was a spark, you went out again -- but the relationship part was a different story entirely.
When I found myself in the midst of a divorce and navigating a new dating world -- this time as a single mother -- it dawned on me that any experience garnered in my former incarnation as a single woman had to be thrown out the window.
Then there was a perfectly nice fellow, a body-builder with a sensitive side who shared lavender cupcakes and tea with me one hot summer afternoon.
He asked thoughtful questions and was a good listener, but we had a distinct lack of chemistry.
I would have to learn them on my own in the trenches.