Many people have asked me what it’s like being an American woman married to an Arab man.
He can comfortably spend his Winter in a desert tent, cooking fresh meat over fahem, and brushing his teeth with a miswak. While I’m watching the Arab Ramadan shows, he’s fully invested in an episode of Daily Show or Colbert.
There’s very little about him that fits into the stereotypical ‘bedoin’ mold.
But he also embraces the more positive things about the bedoin culture, such as how women should be treated.
Unfortunately there are a lot of misconceptions about how bedoin men treat their wives, and until you’re married to one, I suggest you don’t assume.
If he knew something bothered me or caused me pain, he wouldn’t do it, that simple.
In the bedoin culture men are often viewed as superior to women (by outsiders), but it’s not that way.
They accept I need a fork to eat my meals and they’ve always accommodated me without making me feel awkward.
I’m never left out of family events and they even go out of their way to embrace things from my culture.
After-all, it’s you who has to walk in those shoes.
I can say, with confidence, if you’re in a relationship which is questionable or causes you pain, run… Regardless of nationality, ethnicity, backgrounds, or culture.
He’s actually more Westernized than many ‘city’ Arabs I know.