Marriages are full of challenges, and Uncle Batta believes that being equally yoked in faith gives couples an advantage in dealing with those challenges.
If they are of different faiths or one is a believer and the other isn’t, they may not have those same advantages. Do you love this person, and does this person have reciprocal love for you? It would seem obvious that the answer is yes, but if that were always the answer, there wouldn’t be so many divorces.
Over and over again, I see single mom and single dad clients leap headlong into a new relationship — even move in with someone — only to face a disastrous breakup a short while afterward.
Every person contemplating marriage should take time to seriously ask whether this is a relationship built on reciprocal love or something less, such as infatuation, physical attraction, or mere friendship. Is this person the one you want to parent your children?
This is Uncle Batta’s early wake-up call for every young man who may not be thinking enough about the future and raising a family: He wants his daughter’s suitors to give thought to what it will be like not just to marry and enjoy companionship with his daughters but also to raise children with them.
Nick also hosts his own daily inspirational radio program.
A native of Australia, he now lives in Southern California with his wife and co-author of this book, Kanae, and their son Kiyoshi.
Here are some questions I think are good to ask yourself to make sure you're staying to true your identity, whether you're already in a dating relationship or interested in entering one (following six questions from 1) Who is the most important person in your life, and why? More precisely, how do you feel about yourself -- physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually?
3) What is the most important thing in the world to you?It was more than a physical attraction; it was like she was meant to be a part of me and my life. Do you have any major concerns to discuss or things you want changed before marrying this person?If someone enters into a marriage thinking that he or she will love the person only under certain conditions, such as “only if he buys us a million-dollar house” or “only if he agrees not to watch football on Sunday afternoon,” there may well be challenges ahead.When there were twists and turns in our early days of courting and it looked like our relationship might never develop beyond friendship, I found it hard to breathe.Even though I’d been attracted to other women and felt there were some I even loved, I had never felt that way before.Uncle Batta shared with me the questions he asks each of his prospective sons-in-law, and I think they are good questions for any Christian couple to ask themselves when contemplating a serious relationship. Do you love the Lord with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength?