It’s been over 20 years I have not dated…yup very lonely and sad…Honestly, I don’t know how to tell and don’t want to see that look on his face when I say btw I have herpes…
Honestly I am tired of all of the negative stigma attatched to Herpes and HPV as well. about 1 in every 5 people have it or have (or had) some kind of STD. Life goes on, but people who are ignorant about it, make people feel that they’re not worth shit when they try to live a “normal” life.
As long as ure on top of ur game, u can live a normal n fun life.
Because HPV 16 may not cause outer symptoms but it causes cancer if left unchecked. As most of us caught what we had by not sleeping around, but from someone we were in a committed relationship with who we trusted. How is having an ailment as common as a cold gross? It’s uneducated people like you who publish lame stories such as this that cause such misconceptions about a simple virus that millions of people have. because one day you no you are going to have to tell them.
You people have NO IDEA how you can easily catch it. ignorance is why people who do have it are afraid to come out and be honest about it!!! so how do i meet a nice lady that may have it to and we dont have to say we have it.
Yes, I have herpes and because of those people that judge us I have been hiding and making excuses not to date cuz I am afraid to tell men.
Stupid, yes, but if you don’t have the virus then you have know idea how hard it is to tell that person you like you have herpes.
I would have rather gotten away with herpes than HPV because I now have complications with cervical cancer. Put it this way, the one you turn away because they may/may not have herpes, will be the reason why the next person u try to get involved with will be the one to burn you.
As for the other people on this forum who have herpes, consider yourselves extremely lucky. =) do some research before you start rambling on about a disease that is just as common as the common cold… like someone gave it to me but its hard to meet someone that you like and may want to hang out with or whatever.
If you think you may have it, get tested as the treatments out there will provide you with a world of relief. The truth is though that anyone worth dating won’t back out because of something so small.
I didn’t back out on my gf when she told me…and it took 4 years and and a bit of carelessness on our part for me to get it.
Ill admit, I was partying a lot and slept with the wrong man. Yeah, herpes sucks, you get stressed out or sick and then you get even more sick when the virus comes out, but if anything, having it has taught me so many life lessons.