For myself, I fell for this myth hook, line, and sinker, for two reasons.
Perhaps instead of telling women to simply wait and pray, we need to be teaching women how to be open, friendly, and available, so that men are more encouraged to step out and ask girls out?
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I can’t say that I’m an expert on relationships, but if there is one thing that I feel like God taught me during my dating years (and it took about three years too many for me to learn this) it is that you should never settle for less than God’s best.
I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.
I don’t mean that your future spouse will be perfect or that you will think alike or always agree on everything. But I do believe that if you seek God’s guidance, He will lead you to the person who is going to be the match for you.
I believe that God pairs us up with people that complement the gifts, talents, and personalities that He has given us – if we let Him. The guys I dated before I began dating my husband were not all bad guys. We genuinely cared about each other and had fun together.
It is through him that I find the greatest hope for a happy and blessed marriage, not by following a man-made dating prescription.
Ever had these thoughts about someone you are dating? Too many of my friends are finding themselves there now too.
Secondly, I was fearful of becoming a woman who controlled her spouse.
I thought by waiting for this courageous pursuer the church kept talking about, I would get a guy strong enough to fix my tendency to control.
” It turns out we were not in sync on these issues, and I decided to end the relationship. But I began to notice subtle patterns that bothered me.