So I told her, if you can't break contact yet, at least stay open to the possibility that he is a scammer and if he asks you for money, promise me two things. Let me tell you, it was not easy, but it would have been harder if she hadn't had support from an objective source.
Pick something specific she wrote about herself, and ask her a follow-up about it.
If nothing else, she’ll admire the fact that you took the time to “get to know” her.
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah.
, we’d like to assume you know better than to make mistakes like these.
Recently, I started working with a private client who was emotionally involved with a scammer. He was attentive, offered up beautiful poetry and had found a way to identify with her deepest pain.
Yet when I shared why it sounded like she was becoming attached to someone who was less than honest, she was shocked and couldn't believe this nice man she spoke with on a daily basis was about to take advantage of her.
A good rule of thumb: if you aren’t available for a date within 7 days of sending the message, don’t send it.
NOT-SO-SMOOTH OPERATOR The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?
By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.