Learning to navigate around others’ sensitivities, and not have so much ego, will go a long way.
When you fight: Casual debates or when someone wounds your pride.
ISFJYou wear your heart on your sleeve with those who know you best, and you’re very sensitive to criticism.
You hate disagreements and rarely fight, often suppressing your feelings or quietly pushing back when someone says something you disagree with.
When you fight: To test a theory, or when you don’t care about the outcome. You’d rather have everyone just get along than constantly fight about silly stuff.
That said, you have no problem speaking up if the situation calls for it — especially when someone is telling one of your friends how to act, feel, or live their life.
Conflicts often escalate when one person can’t see the other’s side — and if you’ve ever stopped to take note, you’ll see that everyone has their own MO in an argument.
Some withhold; others get passionate and insistent. Knowing how the people around you typically deal with hurt feelings and disagreements that can escalate a conflict can ultimately help you come to a quicker resolution.You can be fierce when it comes to what you value deeply, whether it’s protecting a significant other, or a cause that’s close to your heart.Ultimately, though, it’s important to realize that the first time others see your feelings is usually the moment conflict begins.If someone is critical of you (and you know you’re at fault), you’ll either own up to it or tell them exactly what they want to hear to stop the fighting ASAP.If your feelings are truly hurt or your pride is wounded, you are often rash in your reaction, sometimes blunt in your assessments.Sometimes it’s important to let things roll off your back instead of creating conflict, accepting that there isn’t always a right or wrong answer, just different opinions.