These women are all dating after 40…some in their 60s and 70s. They had one date three weeks prior, and since it’s only been texting. Texting has certainly complicated dating and relationships.
“Sue” connected with a man on Tinder, they had a couple emails, and then he started texting. I’m going to give you some straight scoop about what texting really means and doesn’t mean.
It's late Friday night, and the bar in which I find myself is like an ancient ship's lower deck: dark wood and barrels.
The band performing in the far corner matches the mood.
He’s either impulsive or, more likely, using you as a back-up girl when his other plans fell through. A grownup guy who truly wants to know you will get the message and ask you out ahead of time.
A player or user guy will text you again in a few weeks wanting to see you that night. It’s all about how he FEELS when he’s with you, and he knows it.
He sent her pictures of the baseball game he attended. She told him about her car trouble and he responded ‘why didn’t you ask me to come help? And, most importantly, how you can take control of the situation – like a grownup! If you are like Sue, Lila or Melissa, here is what you need to know: Continuous texting, when void of in-person meeting, creates a false sense of connection.
Do not assume that getting a bunch of texts from a guy means you are having a relationship. If a man is choosing to only text or primarily text, he’s not showing signs of wanting to get to know you in a meaningful way. Whether it’s because they found someone else, were just playing or because they got scared — that’s 100% immaterial. You feel like you are getting to know one another, but that is not what’s happening.
It's a jug band, which is exactly what it sounds like: a few guys drawing bassy notes out of empty jugs while another guy plays a guitar made out of a cigar box.
Couples are dancing, drinks sloshing out in little waves.
So…the bottom line on texting and dating is this: use texting sparingly, wisely and, most of all, don’t read too much into it.
Remember, real life and real love happen in person, smile to smile, touch to touch.
Take it for what it is – he’s probably not serious about dating and he’s going down his list, hoping you bite. A man who wants a healthy, mature connection will make every effort to show you he’s interested and to actually see you in person. So if he’s looking for something more than one fun night, a good man will do what he can to impress you by asking you out, and then be in your presence.