This is also a way for you to test how vulnerable you can be with this person. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness.
If you can't be vulnerable, then you can't be intimate. If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too.
If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with the relationship.
" This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person? We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way?
You should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it.
Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single.
You'll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a triangle.
Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate, negotiate, and work together.
Over the course of a lifetime, difficulties will inevitably arise.
With the divorce rate over 50 percent, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding who to spend the rest of their life with. The golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most.
To avoid becoming a "statistic," try to internalize these 10 insights. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after they're married... " So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than on character. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it." Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them.
There's a big difference between "controlling" and "making suggestions." A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit. You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on the table.