I told her that I still wanted her to have the baby and offered to stay until baby was born but I wwould still be moving out, mistake, yes I know.
16 and 13 year old dating - Dating married men who are separated
Up until this point, Ben’s been content to let his ex wife call the shots regarding their separation. Some people (especially men) take this approach because they are holding out hope for reconciliation.
Other people (especially men) think it will result in a kinder, gentler divorce.
Sure, they’ve been living separately; but the devil is in the details, and no one has sorted through those yet. But you’re not living in a perfect world; you’re living in Ben’s world.
Since it’s not likely that the two of you will take a hiatus while Ben gets his divorce done, let’s develop a practical plan to get you through this. He sat on the sidelines waiting to see what she would do next.
My ex husband starting chatting to and emailing a girl he liked while we were still married and together, then told her her he'd left, then about a month later he left, and another month after that he's introducing her to our kids without my knowledge.
However, as much as that made her feel like he was really into her, for the following four or five months he was telling me he'd made a mistake and wanted to come back - only staying with the new girl because he can't bear being alone.
Provided they have their own place and not still living in matrimonial home I would say they are free to date.
It seems a shame to pass over someone who is waiting for their divorce. He was so hung up on his wife (she left him suddenly) and thought he was ready for a new relationship.
But now that you two are involved, Ben needs to demonstrate respect for both you and your new relationship by taking the reigns on his divorce.
Ben should talk to a divorce lawyer and figure out what constitutes a reasonable time frame for getting his divorce done.
Glad I'm happily married as dating with kids sounds like a mine field!