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If you feel anxious, channeling some of that anxiety into the pressure on your fingertips can help to distract you from your anxiety or from thinking too much about whether you seem nervous or shy to your date.
If the fingertip exercise doesn’t do the trick, try something else with your fingers, including massaging each finger or rubbing your palms slowly.
At the end of the day, this is the main secret to successful dating, especially for shy men and women: distract yourself from the thoughts in your head and come out, come out, come out to play. Being shy basically means that you have a lot of personality inside you, but you feel uncomfortable releasing it to people you don’t really know.
In many ways, this trait is actually positive in that you use caution as you get to know people.
The most important point for shy men and women dating is to get them out of their heads and into the moment as much as possible.
If you’re a shy person, you probably know too well that you have a tendency to think, think, think when you’re thrust into new social situations.The good news is that you can often fidget with your fingers on a date without having your date even know by keeping your hands in your pockets or under the table if you’re out for that romantic dinner.The takeaway: Shyness often gets better with age and practice.If you’re shy, the first date is the hardest of all dates.Heck, the first date is awkward for everyone, right?(Yikes, because there was no such gun.) I’ve come a long way since those days largely because I started videotaping myself so that I could see how I come across to others when I’m talking.