So let me now bust one of the big myths about WHERE to meet women… This doesn’t mean you both need to be the #1 and #2 Harry Potter fans. I had to become a more assertive, outgoing and interesting person.When I was first trying to overcome my shyness around girls… It’s more about finding people who have compatible values, lifestyle, and personal energy. I had to overcome many of my fears and build new conversation skills. If we’re going to be honest, it’s a woman’s appearance first and foremost.I’m going to start off with the basics so that even a guy who is a virgin and totally confused about dating, can be on his way to having a girlfriend. So I had basically thrown myself into a social situation where it’s the HARDEST to meet women if you’re a more introverted or intelligent guy. So if you want a girlfriend, then you’ll need to do something different. Looking back now, it’s no wonder why girls never showed any interest in me.
What would I even do with a girlfriend if I had one?
So for years, I watched from the sidelines as the girls I liked went out with the more popular and confident guys.
People meet each other in many different places, in many different ways. Now I live near a downtown university, which means there’s a seemingly endless stream of cute girls walking down the street whenever I step outside. Start thinking about where you can meet the girl who is right for you. So clearly, just being in a situation where you’re NEAR a lot of girls is not going to get you a girlfriend. Here’s how reality actually works: “Being yourself” is not going to get you a girlfriend. Depressed, insecure about how I looked, little sense of fashion, and unable to even look a cute woman in the eyes for more than 1 second.
In fact, one of my reasons for writing this article is to bust a lot of the MYTHS that some dating advice or so-called “pick up” coaches are spreading. I even had an apartment a couple blocks away from one of the main nightlife areas in the city. If you live in a more suburban area outside the city, then go to a nearby shopping mall, bookstore or a busy coffee shop. The problem with meeting girls at nightclubs or even going to one of those”single people events” is that there’s a The first step to finding a girlfriend is to put yourself into situations where you can meet many different girls that have a high chance of being compatible with you. Well-meaning people may tell shy guys that you just need to “be yourself” and eventually some girl will fall in love with you. I had to change myself and my behavior before my dating results changed.
I thought I looked ugly growing up, I was scared to smile because of my slightly crooked front teeth, and I believed my appearance was the reason no girls ever showed interest in me.
And to top it off, for years I was extremely insecure.
In all social species with pair-bonds, females are attracted to evidence that males display a chance for power in the community.
[…]Humans compete less for territory than for rank.
(Side note: Even though I often meet random girls in the daytime, I’ve accepted that the vast majority of these conversations will never lead to dating or a girlfriend. I had to learn how to become more comfortable with myself and comfortable connecting with other people. A cute face, nice breasts, round hips, soft skin, a certain walk.
But it is a great way to improve your social skills. Men are wired to feel attraction to a woman whose body displays signs of fertility, health and youth. Guys can like a girl a lot just because of how she looks… Now, I’m not saying that looks are everything to men, but they’re the primary thing that attracts us to a girl in the first place.
And the fat stores around the hips are used in the later stages of pregnancy, allowing a woman to survive to have the baby and breastfeed it in our past when food was scarce.