Japan punts itself as being a very “homogenous” country.
In general I’m always reluctant to recommend online dating to males (the statistical chances of success are usually terrible for males), however there’s a few Japan focused dating sites where the “interracial appeal” may balance the odds a little, and of course there’s Tinder app for some quick swipe action. Men always seem to hit on foreign women at import stores. However we don’t think you need to allocate more than a few hundred yen for your dating budget 🙂Japanese tend to be very agreeable and don’t want to “rock the boat” or make people feel bad/uncomfortable.
For more detail and other ideas for meeting Japanese girls and guys in Tokyo that we covered in the “cheap sex” post: matsuri (festivals), exhibitions, events and house parties. “English Lessons.” Websites like Hello Sensei (etc) let you teach English by offering lessons under the table. About ⅔ of the men I “teach” English to don’t ask for a second lesson once they find out I’m married. As a result, a lot of times their communication can be unclear or vague.
Martin says: There’s a trick question I often tell my (dating) clients: Q: When do you know if a Japanese girl will go on a date with you? Men assume foreign women are more outgoing and direct (which sucks when you aren’t).
It’s ok to ask to hang out “as friends” knowing that y’all are more than “Just friends.”Approaching – use a lot of facial expressions and gestures, be animated – engagement without just language!
Japanese women tend to want to look, feel and be their best whenever they are on a date so expect cancellations when weather is bad or when she’s in a bad mood, or tired.
Of course you often won’t know the answer, but always be prepared for the “dotakyan” or last minute cancellation, especially on first dates. Grace Says: If you’re a woman, you might have to suggest the first date.
And how do you interact with a nation of shy people who always seem to have their head down and nose buried in a book/iphone game?
Fear not, scratch your head in bewilderment no longer – as myself, Grace (famous for her “My Japanese Husband Thinks I’m Crazy” story) and Martin of Asian Dating Monthly have put our heads together and distilled our combined two decades of Japanese dating experience to bring you these top tips, which will help you navigate the seas of romance in Japan.
The other really easy way to meet Japanese girls is through Language Exchanges.