One study of heterosexual romantic couples found that the partner with less emotional involvement in the relationship had more power, and this was generally the man.
The more we depend on one person to satisfy our needs, the more power that person has over us. Although sometimes one person in a relationship has more power (influence) than the other, each person has some degree of power. As you were growing up, you were very dependent on your parents and other adults.
We grant power to partners who have more experience in relationships. Reward power is based on another person's ability to satisfy your needs.
There are obvious rewards, such as money and gifts, but most rewards are more interpersonal in nature.
The five sources of power they identified are legitimate (or position) power, referent power, expert power, reward power, and coercive power.
Legitimate power is power that is based on respect for a position that a person holds.
Understanding the you analyze the power that you have and that others have being mindful of how people can influence you and how Chapter 8 Conflict Management Skills you may influence others can help you understand why some conflicts are managed as they are.
A classic framework for identifying the sources of power was developed by researchers John French and Bertram Raven.
When you talk, you are attempting to exert power over other people, if for no other purpose than to get them to listen to you.
By definition, being in a relationship means letting someone have some influence on you and having influence on the other person.
Power to Persuade When we have power, we may use it to manage conflict in order to achieve our goals and meet our needs using compliance-gaining strategies.