Good boundaries protect us from becoming engulfed in abusive relationships and pave the way to achieving true intimacy the flipside of independence, as we grow to interdependence the relationship of two mature individuals.They help us take care of ourselves and if we can receive it, to respect the selves of others.
When we have a strong conception of our own identity, we do not feel threatened by the intimacy of the relationship and can appreciate and love those qualities in our partner that make him or her a unique person.
When two people come together, each with a clear definition of her or his own individuality, the potential for intimacy and commitment can be astounding.
The similarities between two people may bring them together, but in an ideal partnership, sometimes called interdependent, their differences are respected and contribute to the growth of their relationship which aids in the growth of the individuals in that relationship.
Personal boundaries are the limits we set in relationships that allow us to protect our selves from being manipulated by, or enmeshed with, emotionally needy others.
Emotional boundaries are crucial in helping us to enjoy healthy relationship and avoid unhealthy or disfunctional relationships.
John Stibbs explains what emotional boundaries are and how to tell the difference between a healthy and an unhealthy relationship: A successful relationship is composed of two individuals each with a clearly defined sense of her or his own identity.
we usually embrace the answer that most represents what we wanted to hear. I wear myself out with desire for your law all the time” (Psalm 1–20, NCV).
The author of Psalm 119 understood this, and he was desperate for God’s instruction.
are generally as a result of being raised in dysfunctional families where maturation and the individuation process was not properly understood nor the child respected as an individual.