I met Bob at a restaurant on a summer afternoon in 2014.
But this was the first time it occurred in person and with such aggression.
Two years earlier, my relationship of nearly a decade ended.
He introduced himself and inquired about what we did for a living.
When I told him I was a writer, he became intrigued.
I specified that I would date men in their early thirties to early forties - “no exceptions", I wrote.
A few men didn't listen, but I managed to weed out most of them.As with Bob, anytime I responded to the older men online, thanking them for their interest and reiterating my age-range preference (which clearly specified 31 to 42), I was offered a patronizing lecture on the value of an open mind and a laundry list of reasons they are young at heart, complete with winking references to their still-spry sexual prowess.I was also inundated with examples of famous couples with large age differences, in case I didn't know them.I was considered too old for men my age, but not for those with 15 years or more on me.As Ok Cupid founder Christian Rudder has said, this is quite common.(And though he constantly disparaged her for it while they were together, he also grudgingly admitted he chose her for “school smarts", too).